Thoughts For Protecting Children From Predators Article

	1888 Articles Home \| Family Articles \| Parenting Articles	Parenting RSS
Thoughts For Protecting Children From Predators

Everyday our country's precious children are falling prey to some very destructive individuals, predators. Understanding how their minds work and preparing your children for a possible encounter may help you develop a strategy. Predators are present in all our communities. Be Aware.

Author: Criminal Attorney

Article Tools:

We all agree that one of the most horrifying predator acts is molesting children. In response children are being raised in a less than ideal tmosphere. Gone are those days, the case when I was growing up, when children were beyond their parent’s watchful eye all afternoon. Children are being over-protected to the detriment of their future. This is a sad reality, but necessary. In this writing I will cover generalizations. Some things are unique to the relative vs. stranger child prey situations. Age, gender, etc. also may have a role. Let’s deal with that another time.

Why your child? I say why not. If your child’s [potential] molester has the evil desire to molest children then your child fits that description as good as any other. Their mode of operation may differ from one another, but if they are driven to molest they will. What can you do to reduce your child’s odds? I can think of a couple things. First is to understand the mind of a molester.

Children are no different than any other prey, objects of desire. A child kicking a soccer ball around loves to play with the ball, they do not love the ball itself. Any soccer ball would do for the purpose of this desire.

Molesters have the same relationship with their prey. No emotional attachment to the prey itself. Talk about that one in a sec. Never, never is a child to blame, nor is any other victim for that matter.

Some people harbor evil desires and do not act on them. What makes predators different? They do not have the constraint on their behavior like the rest of us. Absent constraint they act on desire. Easier to say then comprehend. Imagination works best to explain how this feels, so come alone to a deserted island.

Your deserted island means just that, not another soul on it. In addition there is not much to eat. Eventually you are going to get pretty hungry.

Not much you wouldn’t do, short of self preservation, to obtain that desire.

You will do whatever it takes and nobody is around to constrain you in your effort. You might surprise yourself.

Our behaviors will differ based on whether the action affects another because of inhibition and empathy. Inhibition restrains us from doing an act when we, as individuals, believe it will hurt another, you see a possibility and do not act. In concert, or separately, empathy constrains us because we have the ability to conceive how another may be feel as a result of an act, imagined feelings of someone else restrains your act.

Child molesters are not constrained by other souls, despite the fact they live side by side many. They have no emotional consideration for the harm caused a child by an act in advancement of their evil desire. Find it tough to wrap your mind around the concept. Do not try to make sense of it using your processing. Inhibition and empathy are not there. The only way you can imagine the lack of constraint act is when no one is around.

Your inhibition and empathy are present and used all the time in the presence of others.

The molester’s approaches are snatch, stalk or befriend. Parental guardianship of your child 24 hours a day is impossible. If your child becomes a target, a molester is stopped by nothing, short of self preservation. The snatch approach may be the only one where you have no opportunity to intervene. In a stalk or befriend situation you might have contact with the predator ahead of time. When a person, and I mean anyone, cause you to have a sense of insecurity while around them, take heed. It would be better to suspect and take action that involves a totally innocent person, then not act and suffer the consequence.

As parents I believe you all have told your children, over and over, what to do when a stranger approaches. Take another step and create situations to test their response. They are people to and their natural tendency may be to respond to others. Remember your restraint system. Children have this to. Inhibition and empathy kicks in to monitor our actions. If a child perceives their act might hurt another, their response to it may be less than desirable. Telling them it is safe to run away is not good enough.

Creating situations you want them to run from will help develop a natural response. If your child does not run in your test scenarios do not punish. Their response is natural.

Behavior modification should be done in a loving environment coupled with understanding. Some children take longer than others to adjust and act in the desired way.

Create a frame of reference for them. Appreciate the desired response, continue coaching the undesired one. It is your duty as their guardian to prepare them for the world. Telling them and demonstrating are entirely two different things. The response to run from strangers needs to be automatic. Help them achieve this if it is not already present.

Our senses pick up weird for a reason. Honor your natural defense mechanism and do everything in your power to keep your child out of harms way.

About Author

http://www.predator-awareness.com

Article Source: http://www.1888articles.com/author-criminal-attorney-3287.html