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everyone needs someone to talk to, this is how and why.........

Author: Alison Taylor

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When you need someone to talk to

Why is it that when you have a problem or just want to open up to someone we find it so hard? When a mountain of people offer that ever open ear and apparent shoulder to cry on, with again apparent no come backs, we find it so difficult to say what is on our mind. Do people really want to listen, do they really care enough or want to give up their seemingly busy schedule to sit and have their ear bent for ages?

I don't know! When I want to talk to someone, I am sometimes at a loss for who to say it to, thankfully lately troubles haven't been so frequent, but when they do arrive, and god knows they will, as they always do, who do I turn to? Family....... Well only if I am absolutely sure that what it is I have to say I am not that concerned about being broadcast, families do have this keen habit if shedding your load across the whole entire relation community, as I have been aware of in the past, so you turn to friends, yes frieds, the people you decide to choose as your own personal sort of family, the people who should be there come rain hail or shine, no come backs, no reprisals, no judgements and total honesty and trust, hmmmmmmmm....... well yes, ofcourse we trust our friends with enough info that could get us hanged from time to time, yes we tell them our deepest most sordid secrets when you know they are the only ones who you can confess to,but....... is our reliant justified, do these souls of the earth truly exsist? Are we the lucky chosen few that find that special person who is absolutely without a shadow of a doubt as trustworthy as we would like to believe?

In past experiences I have learnt to be careful, trust only who you know by what you know, watch how people react when you tell them things, does their eyes glitter and glimmer begging for more info on your story, do they seem to stare uneasilyly into nothingness, watching that little tint bit of fluff float around in the air whist you air your most private thoughts, do you always think they're listening? Really listening!? Do they remember just that tad too much, have these people the memory of an elephant, who hold maybe little pieces, but always the juiciest pieces of info to the back of their minds and save it in a folder marked 'for later use', I have come across this countless times, the sudden throw back, oooh the reflect of a private conversation, a echo of something you maybe said in jest, or upset or anger or anything, something that you said ages ago that comes back to haunt you like the ghost of christmas past!

How well do we feel we can trust people, how cynical are we? How suspicious are we to think that the people we hold dearest to us would spill out lifes problems out into the natural world, how sad is that?
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Over years of being what I would call an honest person, well I tell the truth, sometimes too well, but I tell the honest blantant truth and dig myself out later, how do I find that special person who mirrors me? Someone I can talk to, unleash those tormented problematic moments that determine the time I am i, we all need someone, someone who will listen and never pre-judge, someone who will take in what we say, and at the end only offer advice if asked, and someone who could even create a smile at the finish..........

I trust myself, ofcourse I do, I have lived a quite normal life, had ups and downs, cried and laughed, been drunk then back to sober, had children and a one time husband, have wed and divorced, have worried then been relieved, ofcourse I trust myself, and anyone who knows me knows my reliability to be there when I am asked, I have never judged and definately never pre-judged, my open mindedness has candidly given way to having many friends and relationships, so where do I get the one special person who fullfills the same criteria?

Luckily over my lifetime I have learnt many lessons, and have taken heed and made sure that these learnings stay logged in ones mind for future reference, which then makes me feel lucky, as at least I have accomplished something, a knowledge of human behaviour and feelings, so yes I am lucky to have lived the experiences I have done.

When that special person comes into your life, at whatever time in your life, and you know, not think, but know, you can ultimately trust them with yor life, you know that this person is always going to be beyond special, someone who makes you feel at ease no matter the situation, welcome no matter the time, helpful with ask, someone who holds what you tell them into a special secret place that only you and they are aware of, and this place will never ever be entered again, not even by yourself unless you ask for it....... if you have found this, then you are blessed!

I have a blessed best friend, who undoubted is honest, to the point of insanity, but hold a quality that not even she knows she poccesses, which is what makes her so special, someone who I open up to, someone I would always believe to tell me the truth, even if the truth did more than hurt! This is where you have chosen your family, these special people are there by choice, not through force or the 'have to be' factor, these are so different, and for that I personally am very lucky!

When you need that shoulder, when you need that trust and honesty, when you feel that you need unbiased help, never feel alone,always feel that someone will be there, because at the end of the day, someone is there, and if a straight talking answer with complete confidence is what you require, then come and see me,Alison at http://www.itsworthasking.com

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